Here’s what I believe to be true – confidence is overrated.
We put so much value on confidence, that somehow it seems that we can not do the things we really wanna do as long we don’t feel confident.
Yet, the irony is, that our brains are wired for worry, doubt + fear.
So that worry, doubt + fear pop up.
Anytime we venture out of our comfort zone.
Anytime we do something new.
Anytime we set a goal.
Anytime we wanna make something happen.
And the irony is that – since we believe we SHOULD feel confident, without any worries, doubts or fears – we tend to… wait.
We wait until our worries, doubts + fears have disappeared.
Or we work hard to calm our worried mind.
We think things through – again and again.
We plan and replan – over and over.
We vow to really start tomorrow. Or next month. Or once that one deadline is met.
THEN we are gonna go after that goal we truly want to make happen.
And then… that day comes, and along come the worries, doubts + fears.
And so we do… nothing.
I used to think the exact same way.
I thought I needed confidence to make my goals happen.
And I got stuck as a result of that belief.
It’s not confidence we need.
It’s the courage take action and fail.
It’s the courage do something and screw up.
It’s the courage to make a change and get pushback.
And it’s realizing that that’s simply the way things go.
That that’s simply a part of living life to the fullest.
That that’s a REQUIREMENT for living life to the fullest.
Some things will work, and some things won’t.
Some people will love what you do, and some won’t.
And that’s ok.
You don’t need to be perfect – in fact, you can’t.
You don’t need to be liked by everyone – in fact, you can’t.
And you know what’s so wildly fascinating?
The more you are willing NOT to feel confident, the more confident you will actually feel.
The more you are willing to screw up and learn from it, the more confident you will actually feel.
The more you are willing to be criticized, the more confident you will actually feel.
What if you were willing NOT to feel confident 100% of the time?
What if you were wiling to feel courageous instead?
How different would your life be?